11 gorgeously gothic gifts for alternative bridesmaids and friends of honour
Woohoo! So you’re engaged, deep into wedding planning, and if you’ve found yourself reading this blog, I’m guessing that the whole “white dress, pink roses, and pastels” vibe isn’t very you. You’re in the right place, as I have a penchant for the dark and gothic too.
The fun thing about planning your wedding is that you can take traditions and make them your own, or throw out the rule book completely and make up new ones.
One tradition I do love? Gifting the people who’ve supported you through this chaotic, wonderful process - whether you’re calling them the wedding party, bridesmates, or friends of honour (which of course includes your goth BFF who’s dutifully crafting creepy but cool centrepieces from ethically sourced bones).
Your favourite people have shown up for fittings, soothed your stress, and probably helped curate the perfect alternative wedding playlist too. They deserve something truly special and as unique as they are, whether you’re giving them a gift to ask them to be in your wedding party, a little token the morning before the wedding, or a special keepsake during speeches.
Here are 11 gothic, gorgeous, and gift-worthy ideas for thanking your alternative wedding crew.
1. A crystal from Luna Amatores, from £2
Crystals are a meaningful but low-pressure way to say “thank you” to your wedding party, while tying in themes of connection, energy, and love. You can personalise them by each person’s birthstone, select stones to reflect your wedding’s colour scheme, or choose one that represents friendship.
Korin from Luna Amatores says, “Rose Quartz always makes a gorgeous gothic bridesmaid gift. It represents love and friendship. Small tumblestones make a lovely lil token of friendship, and our heart-shaped carvings are cute too.”
2. SLAB Jewellery Cheron Mini Skull Medallion in silver or gold vermeil, from £85
Think of this as the starter skull necklace - it has just the right amount of edge without being too much. It’s subtle enough for bridesfolk who aren’t usually into alt jewellery, and has real meaning for those who are.
Fun fact: I’ve gifted this piece to both of my sisters - one of them isn’t even remotely goth, and she still wears it, it’s that versatile.
3. A scent or candle from Haunts Curiosity Shoppe, from £3
From wedding-day memory-makers to keepsakes your friend of honour will light long after, Haunts Curiosity Shoppe does atmospheric fragrance beautifully, and their candles, perfumes and elixirs make gorgeous gothic wedding party gifts.
Haunts Curiosity Shoppe say, “Cemetery Air is a particularly perfect gothic bridesmaid gift for anyone getting married in Arnos Vale, or other cool alternative wedding venues. We have it in the perfume roller, large perfume, spray, candle and reed diffuser.
The fragrance library set is a great way to gift a sensory experience without committing to choosing what they would like. The box contains 12 fragrances, perfect for them to find their own favourites.
My wildcard would be the 'Ancient Magic' hair perfume, perfect for the wedding day itself, and creating an olfactory memory linked to the wedding day.”
4. Miranda B.Wares Sacred Heart Tote Bag, £40
This is a fun, useful, and visually striking gift for your wedding party - a tote that says, “I love you, but make it punk Catholic iconography.” It’s practical (because weddings = more stuff to carry than you think, especially for a bridesmate) but still wildly cool, and it can be used long after the big day.
The sacred heart centrepiece gives the tote bag a romantic twist - which is perfect for a wedding without being too on-the-nose - and you can choose from 3 different sacred hearts too.
5. SLAB Jewellery Morano Spiked Halo Necklace / Earrings, from £100
The Morano pieces are quietly dramatic - with a sharp silhouette and a soft presence, they can be interpreted as spiky halos or art deco sunbursts, depending on your vibe. They’re a great wedding gift for family members like mums or aunts, who might not go full goth but still want to feel extra special.
Bonus: the earrings especially are super lightweight. My older sister never really wears earrings, but she wore the Morano Spiked Halo Earrings all day at my younger sister’s wedding and forgot they were in - she only noticed when she went to bed.
6. Rebecca Edelmann's Classic Skull Mug, £30
Yes, a mug is a legit wedding party gift - especially one this characterful. I have this mug, and it brings me so much joy when I drink from it.
Every morning, your friends of honour will get a reminder of your wonderful wedding celebration (and your great taste) as they sip their coffee/tea.
Not into mugs? Rebecca also makes gorgeous ceramic plant pots with similar gothic touches, and incredibly cute-but-gruesome “teethie” monsters, which are both beautiful options if you're building gothic bridesmaid gift boxes with a few items.
7. SLAB Jewellery Gemstone Orsino Dagger Necklace, £130
Want a gothic bridesmaid gift that your wedding party can wear on the big day? This dinky dagger pendant makes the perfect present.
My favourite thing about the Orsino Dagger Necklace is that you can customise the gemstone - you could match your wedding colour scheme, or choose birthstones for each person in your wedding party.
It would also look incredibly cool if one (or both!) of the marrying couple wore the larger Anelace Ornata Dagger Necklace, while the friends of honour wore the Orsino Dagger Necklaces.
8. Haus of Mammilla Classic Black Boobbag, from £150-155
This is the kind of bag that gets noticed. It’s playful, sculptural, and just so cool. The Boobbag might not be the gift for every member of your wedding party, but for your goth best mate who’s always making a statement? Perfect. I always get comments and compliments on mine when I use it.
It’s a bold conversation-starter, and on the spendier side of these gothic bridesmaid gifts, but it’s a showstopper they’ll wear forever.
9. An ornament or wall hanging by Goblin Hand, £25-95
Cross-stitch genius Goblin Hand creates tiny gothic works of embroidered art, and they could even do custom commissions for your wedding crew. Think embroidered witches, beaded, bleeding heads, or an inside joke stitched in dark colours.
Perfect for gifting on the big day as a unique keepsake.
10. SLAB Jewellery Roserta Rose Wreath Necklace, £110
If your friends of honour are more romantic and soft-goth, this hand-sculpted rose and thorn necklace inspired by carved wreaths adorning graveyards would make a perfect gothic bridesmaid gift, especially if you’re going for a woodland or fairytale theme.
There’s a mixed metals version of this necklace, and you can also get the Roserta Rose Wreath Earrings if you fancy a matching moment.
11. Zoe Boulton Glass artwork
Zoe’s hand-painted stained glass work is ethereal, celestial, and unforgettable - from skulls to sun goddesses. Pieces like her mother-of-pearl moons and spiders would make magical, lasting gothic bridesmaid gifts for your coven.
While her online shop is in flux, you can often catch her at a market or event, and she accepts commissions too. A small set of matching or complementary pieces for your wedding party would be an incredibly thoughtful gesture.
Whether you’re planning a gothic crypt wedding or a moody woodland elopement, your friends of honour deserve gifts that reflect the uniqueness of your love and their individual personalities. These options are as eclectic and meaningful as your celebration is bound to be.
And the best part? You might even find a few things you want to keep for yourself - I won’t tell 🖤